Papas World – How to deal with a BULLY!

My wife said to me –

” You have to get on face book – all your friends keep asking

about you”! circa 2011 or 2012!

So – I joined and made lots of old and new friends –

And then – about three years ago – it happened!

Sherry – independent
free thinker
church family country
I love her for that

She asked me what I thought –

She wanted to march in protest

#metoo Women’s rights The women’s march in DC.

ONE MILLION WOMEN and she wanted to represent

herself and her daughters!

I have always encouraged her to stand up –

We do not always agree on the same things

but we agree to disagree.

I have always believed in equal rights for women.

She went three years ago – I watched it all on TV.

Some of the things she saw and heard upset her.

Mostly she was proud she made a statement

and I was so proud of her – she would talk to me

she would tell me what was happening

And it was all good until she posted on face book.

The first message came in PM
Not to me but to her
from a friend of mine I grew up with
” I don’t understand why you and all hose women are there” ?

The question –

I thought “REALLY” !

But – since we were friends –

we talked it over

and she explained to him!

She did it for her self worth – her daughters and to protest

the new amoral administration.

She did it for the inequality and looking down to

she had to see and hear in her work life.

The unequal pay – and yes being harassed.

“He did not see any of that in his life – nor his wife did either” he returned.

And so it went on – as the years passed
a few more quips
then I became involved

About a year ago – I BECAME INVOLVED –

she had asked me not too-

over the previous years.

I answered – and it was a long answer –

but also based in facts.

She hugged me and said ” I wish I could think like that”!

“It was perfect – you did it the right way” !

There never was a reply – but during other conversations

I sensed he was not happy with my answer.

Then – a few months ago – it got worse-

and I could see from that on face book

it was as though it reflected the way the White house

also was responding more and more every day.

They were the same – more and more ugly.

One post came through – we were coming back from something

And Sherry had been following the little girl from Sweden

Her heritage –

and she marveled at the strength of her and her message on climate change

( If you think it not happening – then I can sell you the Brooklyn Bridge)

It was so nasty as she read it – to the extent she should be shot and burried

She was mentally wrong in the head to put it in mild terms

he used something else –

She was reading this and then she said

” I do not want you to read this ” and she deleted it!

She made it so that he could not see her posts .

And asked me not to get involved.

He started to make comments
on my posts
attacking people who
commented on my post

When I posted what I thought to be a funny comparrison

I post funny – good and thought provoking quotes –

pictures and jokes every day –

to make people smile and have good thoughts.

I very rarely do Politics

And I keep it clean.

But – out of the blue he attacked the post – my friends and me.

He was doing to us what is being done every day from the White house

almost as if he were given the go ahead to do whatever he wanted!

But – in my life – I can see a BULLY when I see and read one.

And – it is not going to happen on my own face book page.

We can have a discussion
we can frame our words
not to be nasty
we can agree to disagree
but you are not going
talk down to me

I answered him for myself and my friends-

In no uncertain terms

we could remain friends but this was going to stop.

He did not like it and came back in a unflattering

description –

That was it – I replied and told him I wished him a healthy long life

and May the peace of the Lord go with him

But he was done on my site – and then I blocked him.

Over 55 years of friendship
I can see this happening all over
and it is a tell tale sign
of just what comes from
the White house
It is not the party I grew up and loved
It has gotten ugly

I had many messages –

both private and on the site

Applauding me for standing up –

not bowing before a BULLY

and also stating facts –

not groveling in the dirt

I have slowly
been not following
people who post
ugly – cruel posts

I see a lot of posts that simply are not true

The disinformation is real

they post without fact checking

sharing really ugly and slandering posts.

I would hope in this new year that it would get better

But as long as it comes from the top

it will – I am afraid become worse.

This is my setting the record
straight blog
a lot of people saw what took place
and asked me about it
I will not stand by
and see my wife harassed
or my friends bullied

Today is my putting my mind at ease

as it has bothered me

I do not take it lightly those 55 years of friendship

But I also have faith – love and compassion

I answer to my faith – family and country

Sherry and Tom

Thank you for being my sounding board today

and thank you for reading

Papa’s World


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